Was pointed here by a friend and reading was a much needed breath of fresh air, blowing some dust off some conscious/unconscious brain compartments.
Just the simple shift in perspectives from the accepted(and seemingly over-pushed): "self confidence is what is stopping you; here are the steps to build it" to "hold up a second, this premise does not hold up" can be profoundly liberating.
For me, it helps break up the faulty logic blocks created by fear that are forever running the program to logically convince me I need to stay stuck(i.e. safe). Telling me I have to do the work to get more self confidence before I'm able do the next steps, etc.
I'll just need to read this x3/day for the next 2 years before my brain starts to yield lol. Notwithstanding that, thanks for the dusting :).
Vivek is on point. Happiness comes from low expectations, or in neuroscience terms dopamine reward is a function of your predicted reward and the actual outcome (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4826767/). Get more than what you were expecting and you're on cloud nine. Get exactly what you expected and you stay at baseline
I think where low confidence hurts one is when it prevents one from pursuing things one otherwise would, which it clearly hasn't done in your case :)
Was pointed here by a friend and reading was a much needed breath of fresh air, blowing some dust off some conscious/unconscious brain compartments.
Just the simple shift in perspectives from the accepted(and seemingly over-pushed): "self confidence is what is stopping you; here are the steps to build it" to "hold up a second, this premise does not hold up" can be profoundly liberating.
For me, it helps break up the faulty logic blocks created by fear that are forever running the program to logically convince me I need to stay stuck(i.e. safe). Telling me I have to do the work to get more self confidence before I'm able do the next steps, etc.
I'll just need to read this x3/day for the next 2 years before my brain starts to yield lol. Notwithstanding that, thanks for the dusting :).
Needed to hear this today; thank you.
Vivek is on point. Happiness comes from low expectations, or in neuroscience terms dopamine reward is a function of your predicted reward and the actual outcome (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4826767/). Get more than what you were expecting and you're on cloud nine. Get exactly what you expected and you stay at baseline
I think where low confidence hurts one is when it prevents one from pursuing things one otherwise would, which it clearly hasn't done in your case :)